Toil gives rise to skill. Pain gives rise to euphoria. And my personal favorite…
‘fuck-ups give rise to true wisdom’ – Chris Moore
When was the last time you fucked up making toast? Probably somewhere in your teens right? Or was it last week when your sleepless baby led you on a caffeine addled morning of misadventure? Lessons are learned for a reason friends and I want you to pay more close attention to one thing. The mistakes you AREN’T making any more.
Chance are you haven’t fallen over just walking in a long time (tequila-soaked shenanigans aside). I doubt you’ve misspelled your name or forgotten to water the plants after your 5th trip to the nursery for a replacement. Isn’t it amazing how competent you are as human right now? So why in the fuck are you obsessing over the things you haven’t quite gotten right yet? Isn’t the whole goal of this life thing to acquire skills? To develop talent around the things you love and want?
Listening to Mark Manson’s abrasive ‘the subtle art of not giving a fuck’ this morning something rang very true to me. Focusing on what you want, what you’re pushing towards simultaneously highlights your acute lack of those things. If you’re dreaming of earning a million dollars, you are also bashing the fact that you don’t into your skull. Cue insomnia, depression and a tequila bottle emptying a little faster than it should on a Wednesday.
Don’t get me wrong, I whole heartedly think you should be aiming high, dreaming big and working you ass off. But what about where you are right now. When was the last time you sat down to realize that the sun is rising on you as a very different human today than you were a year ago. Hell, even a month ago.
If you’re in pain right now, good. It probably means you’re learning. You just need to pay attention. Pain is senseless without awareness. If you’re in pain and dulling that edge nightly with a few drinks or a porn obsession, you’re not learning anything – other than maybe a new way to combine liver damage and a rotator cuff injury.
Pay attention. Break it down.
What actions or lack there-of have lead you to this position? What missed step lead you down this path? How many steps are now between you and the path you want? Chances are, it’s more than one, but at least you know where you are now.
Now, get your eyes up and onto the horizon you actually want to walk towards.